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The Power of Forgiveness: 2 Ways to Heal

Discover how forgiveness benefits mental health and learn 2 science-backed strategies to overcome past hurts from bioethicist Stephen G. Post.

MARGARET ZUO
Jul 24, 2025
2 min read(281 words)
The Power of Forgiveness: 2 Ways to Heal

Renowned bioethicist Stephen G. Post, author of The Hidden Gifts of Helping, reveals how forgiveness serves as a profound act of generosity that benefits both giver and receiver. Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness isn't about weakness - it's a courageous health strategy with measurable benefits.

Why Forgiveness Matters for Mental Health

Forgiveness doesn't mean:
- Excusing harmful behavior
- Forgetting the experience
- Being naive about future interactions

Instead, it creates emotional space to:
- Process hurt in healthy ways
- Reduce stress and hostility
- Improve cardiovascular health (studies show unforgiving people have 20% higher mortality by age 50)

2 Science-Backed Forgiveness Techniques

1. Shift Focus Through Generosity

Action steps:
- Perform small daily acts of kindness
- Volunteer in your community
- Help someone in need

Benefits:
- Redirects mental energy from pain to purpose
- Creates positive emotional feedback loops
- Builds self-worth through being needed

"You don't need mountain retreats - daily generosity reshapes emotions" - Stephen Post

2. Trust the Healing Process of Time

Key realizations:
- Distance from trauma brings perspective
- Letting go demonstrates strength, not weakness
- Hostile emotions (anger, bitterness) harm physical health

Pro tip: Combine time with mindfulness practices for accelerated healing

Start Your Forgiveness Journey Today

Try this simple 3-minute mindfulness exercise:
1. Find a quiet space
2. Acknowledge your hurt without judgment
3. Visualize releasing the emotional weight
4. Focus on your breathing for 60 seconds

Remember: Forgiveness is a process, not an event. Each small step improves your mental and physical wellbeing.

MARGARET ZUO

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