How to Rekindle Passion in Long-Term Relationships

How to Keep Passion Alive in Long-Term Relationships

Falling in love is exhilarating—full of excitement, intimacy, and sensuality. But what happens when the novelty fades? Many couples struggle to maintain that initial spark as routines take over. The good news? You can rekindle passion with mindful intention.

Why Passion Fades in Committed Relationships

• Novelty wears off: The thrill of new love naturally diminishes over time
• Routine sets in: Predictability replaces surprise and excitement
• Lazy habits form: Effort in romance, communication, and intimacy declines

The Mindful Approach to Lasting Passion

1. Cultivate Mindfulness in Your Relationship

• Practice being fully present with your partner
• Appreciate small moments of connection
• See your partner with fresh eyes daily

2. Set Intentional Romantic Goals

• Plan special dates and surprises
• Keep physical intimacy creative and exciting
• Break out of predictable patterns

3-Step Practice to Reignite Your Relationship

Step 1: Choose a Relationship Goal

Example: "I want more kindness and connection in our relationship"

Step 2: Create Three Supporting Intentions

1. Speak with patience when frustrated
2. Leave loving notes for your partner
3. Practice daily meditation for emotional balance

Step 3: Daily Review and Adjustment

• Morning: Set your intentions
• Evening: Reflect on your progress
• Weekly: Adjust your approach as needed

Transforming Routine Into Renewed Passion

Remember:
- Every moment offers new potential for connection
- Small, consistent efforts create big changes
- Mindful presence transforms ordinary moments into extraordinary ones

Excerpt adapted from Buddha's Bedroom by Cheryl Fraser (New Harbinger Publications, 2018)