Mindful Parenting Tips: How to Be More Present with Kids

In a recent interview with Fresh Air’s Terry Gross, New York Times business writer Charles Duhigg shared his personal goal: being more present with his kids. Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit, revealed that his biggest challenge is staying engaged with his three-year-old and ten-month-old.

Why Mindful Parenting Matters

Parenting is demanding, and it’s easy to mentally "check out" during daily routines. Duhigg’s struggle resonates with many parents who want to break the habit of distraction and cultivate deeper connections with their children.

3 Ways to Practice Mindful Parenting

Here are actionable strategies inspired by mindfulness experts:

1. Create Cues & Rewards (Duhigg’s Approach)

   • Set reminders to pause and engage fully.
   • Reward yourself for being present (e.g., savoring a child’s laughter).

2. Use the “About to” Moment

   • Pause before reacting to tantrums or requests.
   • Model calm behavior—kids learn from your responses.

3. Try Quick Mindfulness Practices

   • Take three deep breaths during stressful routines.
   • Practice gratitude for small moments of joy.

Expert-Backed Mindful Parenting Resources

• Parenting Happily: Psychologist Raelynn Maloney explains how mindfulness reduces stress during hectic routines.
• 8 Mindful Practices for Parents: Karen Maezen Miller’s quick tips for daily mindfulness.
• The “About to” Moment: Susan Kaiser Greenland’s guide to turning daily interactions into teaching opportunities.

Final Thoughts

Like Duhigg, many parents strive to be more present. By incorporating mindfulness cues and small daily practices, you can strengthen your bond with your children—one mindful moment at a time.

Listen to Charles Duhigg’s full interview here or read the summary.